Arrakis teaches the attitude of the knife — chopping off what's incomplete and saying: 'Now, it's complete because it's ended here.'
— Frank Herbert, Dune
As a teenager, I never wanted to “find a girlfriend” or “start dating.” For sure, there were girls I fancied but I never aimed for a relationship with any of them. Which certainly had roots in my upbringing, yadda yadda, but the key fact here is that in the end, I was involved with someone almost all the time. The lack of neediness was the main attracting factor I displayed, never even suspecting that was the case.
When the time came for me to seek employment, it was only hard to find a job when I felt the need to get employed. Whenever I had savings and felt secure, people would reach out to me with great opportunities or even ready-to-go offers. One of my best jobs found me when I was actively avoiding the job market.
When you do not desire something, it will come to you freely. More and more people are coming to realize that simple truth these days.
Rephrasing Frank Herbert, “Arrakis teaches the attitude of the knife — chopping off what's incomplete and saying: 'Now, it's complete because it's not needed anymore.'”